One of the most valuable lessons in caregiving, especially in dementia care, is choosing your battles. When your care partner does not respond or behave as expected, it’s essential to pause and ask yourself, “How important is this?” Not every situation demands immediate resolution; recognizing this can save you and your care partner unnecessary stress.
If the matter is vitally important, the best approach is to assess the situation holistically by stepping back to gain perspective. This could be as simple as pausing to take a deep breath or, in more complex situations, taking a whole day to re-group and plan your approach. Retreating briefly allows you to reset emotionally and mentally, giving clarity on how to proceed in a way that preserves the dignity and well-being of your care partner while reducing your frustration.
– Cate McCarty, PhD
This approach strengthens the bond with their care partner and helps them maintain their emotional resilience and energy for the challenges that require their attention.
Cate McCarty, PhD, is a Dementia Care Coach and Subject Matter Expert with extensive experience in aging and dementia care. She earned her PhD from the University of South Florida's School of Aging Studies, where she taught gerontology courses and researched aging. Her dissertation focused on end-of-life care for individuals with dementia, showcasing her dedication to improving the quality of life for caregivers and their loved ones. As a member of the National Certification Association for Activities Professionals, Cate brings expertise and compassion to her coaching, helping caregivers navigate the complexities of dementia care with evidence-based strategies and emotional support.
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